Simple Lessons From The Bible That Can Help You Get Married

There seems to be many Christian singles books on the shelves these days, on how to pick a mate, how to love a mate and how to keep a mate. But before you can be picked, loved or kept, you have to be found or find somebody. Following what people did in the Bible may help you on your way…

Community Counts…

When a man or woman reached an appropriate age in the Bible, their love ticket was basically written for them. Abraham found a wife for his son, Isaac. Naomi helped her widowed daughter-in-law Ruth find her man Boaz and Mordecai helped his cousin, Esther marry a king.

Unlike our modern culture, in biblical times people had families, communities and a social structure to help them get married. Nowadays, it’s rare to have that kind of help. If somebody wants to get married, many times we’re told:

“You’re on your own, baby!”

But just like people seek mentoring; coaching and support when they want to focus on careers and academics, having people around that share your vision for marriage can be crucial. You need their faith and maybe even their prodding and planning along the path to your wedding day. It might be they “know somebody” that might be a good mate for you, or it could be that they can be faithful in prayer for you. Whatever the case, according to the Bible, we are not meant to take the journey to matrimony alone.

So how do you develop your community? You can start by building up the courage to (gasp) tell those around you that want to get married. After that, you wait and see what happens. If they support you, they are part of your community. If they give a negative response like, “Hey, Jesus will be your boyfriend” or a neutral one like “Just wait on the Lord,” take a clue from the early disciples: dust off your feet and move on. You are looking to get married and you can’t let platitudes stop you.

Follow in the tracks of Naomi when she told Ruth: “My daughter, should I not try to find a home for you?” Ruth 3:1.

We need people in our lives like that. We need a community that has the vision for us to get married. Be brave, pray and search until you find one.

You have the green light from God…

Adam and God in the Garden of Eden had a love thing going on. No sin, no separation, just man and God in a natural state. That’s about as close to God as you can get! But despite Adam kickin’ it with God on a regular basis, God said Adam still needed something… a woman. God even had a name for the predicament Adam was in – God called it “not good” (Genesis 2:18) The Bible says marriage is a reflection of God and his church and that marriage should be honored by all. Why wouldn’t you want to make good on something that God speaks so highly of? Christian singles frequently get stuck by phases like, “You just need to be content” and “Wait on the Lord” but being content and waiting on the Lord does not mean don’t do anything. When you look at love in the Bible, people took action and worked on the premise that it was not good for man to be alone. Marriage was the norm and expected of most everyone. Even Paul’s stipulations on singles in the book of Corinthians were made during a period of “present distress.” We are not in that “present distress” any more. God’s word still stands, if we want to listen. If it was not good for Adam to be alone, it is not good for us.

Renewing your mind for men…

There are women I know who want to get married, but their actions and words speak otherwise. They complain about men, they make fun of men; they stereotype men and wonder out loud where all the “real men” are.

I know these women because I used to be one. That was until I had an “aha” moment. God came down in a cloud from heaven one day (just kidding) and said to me, “Karen, when men don’t think you like them, they stay away from you.” Now, I am not talking about that one guy who you don’t like but who likes you. I am talking about men in general. Our culture can ridicule traditional masculinity and femininity. That’s why I implore all single, Christian women… learn about men. If you hear over and over in the media and in conversations with your sister friends that men are wrong, it will be hard to find a Mr. Right.

Let’s take a new look at men. We all know men and women are different and relate to each other in different ways. I would encourage you to find out how this plays out in everyday life. Renew your mind on men. Read books. Go to workshops. If you have had bad situations with men, pray and seek help. Don’t let a bad experience with a man in the past; destroy a good experience with a man in the future.

You want to marry a friend – not an adversary!

I love the scripture in Titus 2:2 where it says the older women need to teach the younger women to love their husbands. This was yet another “aha” moment for me…. love can be taught! Make the investment and learn how to love men. Find someone who is doing the same for women and you have a winning combination.

The Bible says we will reap what we sow, those in the Bible were intentional about taking steps towards marriage and they… got married. They believed God, took him at his word and took action. Let’s follow suit and be intentional as we try to become a reflection of God and his church by striving towards marriage

Are Free Dating Websites Right For You?

Free Dating Websites are abundant on the Internet. Thousands of people go online everyday looking for a new friendship or potential mate. Before deciding which site to list a profile on, it is important to decide if online dating is right for you.

Time

First you must decide if you have the time to dedicate to meeting people online. It does take time to find the best dating sites for you. Next you have to take the time to set up a profile and post a picture. You must be willing to check your email regularly for anyone who might be interested in developing a relationship with you. Then, of course, you must be able to take the time to develop that relationship.

Privacy

Free dating websites are the perfect place for those who wish to protect their privacy. First set up an email account solely for the use of the dating websites. Be sure to post under a name other than your own and divulge no personal information. If you follow these rules, then you are able to search and be contacted by potential mates without revealing who you really are. This keeps your identity safe and you are free from potential pests that might be prone to stalking.

Diversity

If you like to make friends and meet people from all walks of life from around the globe, then free dating websites are for you. You do not have to contact only those who you believe might be a love interest. Instead feel free to make friends with anyone. Contact people from around the world to learn about other places and cultures. Just be clear that all you are looking for is a friendship and not a more romantic relationship.

No Pressure

Using free dating websites means you are under no pressure to contact anyone or maintain correspondence with anyone whom you deem undesirable. Remember you are completely anonymous. As a result, you are under no pressure to respond to anyone who attempts to contact you. Nor do you have to keep corresponding with someone if you decide they are not quite right for you. There are no repercussions for these actions.

It?s Cheap

If you are like most of us an on a strict budget, free dating websites are just for you. There are no fees to join a free dating website. In addition you do not have the costs associated with trying to meet someone at a bar or nightclub. Nor do you have to worry about the time invested in failed blind dates for your time is just as precious as your money. A true free dating website will cost you no money. If a dating website asks for your credit card or paypal account then beware, as they are probably not free.

It?s Fun

If you enjoy meeting new people and joining in the singles chat rooms, then these dating websites can be quite fun. There are plenty of people out there that enjoy talking the night away in the forums and chat sites. You can join in chat rooms that focus on a particular subject of interest or general chat rooms where you talk about anything you want. It is a great way to learn, laugh, and have a good time.

Rules For A Christian Chat Room

A Christian chat room comes with many rules and regulations to follow. This is for the obvious reason. A Christian chat room will seek to be different and, many vices are simply not acceptable. If you are planning to use the chat rooms of Christians, you need to know some of the rules that will enable you chat in a peaceful and right manner. First, insulting others and calling them names will not be acceptable. This is in line with Christian morals which are upheld to the highest standards in chats. You should be ready to respect the rights of every person you find chatting. Another rule you will find at Christian rooms for chatting, is the fact that you should not to impersonate a moderator. People usually do this by getting names which are almost similar to that of the moderator.

Other rules for a Christian chat room are as follows. You should never register a name that is offensive to other Christians. For example, you should never register names which have sexual overtones. This is because they will demean the integrity of the chat which is based on Christian values. It is vital to show these high standards because after all, this is Christianity for you. Another vital rule of a Christian chat room is never to post any spam messages like links. The sites for chatting are spam free and this is essentially vital. You should also never seem to advertize merchandise. Some people are fond of using the sites for popularizing their websites and so on. This is not at all acceptable. Some are fond of soliciting funds from people. Keep in mind the reason why you are using the facility in the first place. It is all about sharing with others and not making pleas or funds.

In a Christian chat room, never ask the members for their personal information. This is to say that you should never ask for phone numbers, email addresses, location information and so on. It is vital for you to follow some common sense when you are using chats. For example, you will find rooms that are for women. This really means that it is for women only. The same goes for men and also kids. If you plan to disguise yourself as a woman, the services might not do much about it. You need to have a purpose for your chat and, you will find out that you are better suited, when you follow the rules. You must understand that no one is required to answer your questions because it their personal choice. There are many other rules which I?m not able to go through. Remember, before you start chatting, you need to find the rules and go over them; above all, follow them. Many do not like the idea of following rules but, when you get to understand them, you will realize that they are made to safeguard your interests and protect you. Go ahead and have all the fun with chats. Christian chats will amaze you if, you give them a try.

How To Be A Player And Seduce Any Woman You Want

It is a common misconception that a woman does not want to get seduced. In the movie Hitch, the main protagonist who is a dating guru, mentioned that no woman wakes up saying “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today.” This is very true. However, this doesn’t mean that seduction is easy. But if you play your cards right and know what the true player knows, the game will stack in your favour.

So what does the player knows that the common man doesn’t? I am about to reveal to you what I call the ‘twin keys to seduction’. With these two keys, you are well on your way to s any woman you want.

The first key to seduction is control.

Being in control is the perhaps the most important trait seeked for by a woman in a man, either consciously or subconsciously. The player must never exert control in a forceful manner – rather he will need to do it subtlely. An easy way to do this is to balance out having control with forfeiting it – for example: “Yes, I will bring you out for drinks this Friday, but I will get to pick where we go to.”

The second key to seduction is patience.

Look – you can never seduction any woman if you are not patient. The true player knows how to pace the process of seduction. The biggest mistake a man can make when seducing a woman is to move too fast. Remember this – women ‘warms up’ far slower than men. They will need to be paced throughout the interaction – if a man ‘moves’ any faster than what the woman is comfortable with, she is most likely to bail out.

The true player knows that the twin weapons of control and patience are the most deadly arsenal in his seduction toolkit. By projecting your gentlemanly traits confidently through carefully paced interaction is the sure way to seduce any woman you want.

How To Use The Phone To Your Advantage When Making Her A Call

Alexander Graham Bell didn’t know what he was starting when he invented the telephone. He never could have predicted the number of problems his invention would cause in the relationships of today. Agreed, the phone may be one of the greatest inventions of all time, but men and women still don’t know how to use it when it comes to dating. Not to worry. Here’s how to use the phone to win your lady over rather than scaring her off.

You scored the number

Amongst the most popular questions vis-a-vis dating these days is – ‘How do I approach her?’ or ‘How do I ask her out?’ or even ‘When do I call her?’ Do you really need to mull over this for days together? Let’s say you meet a woman at a club. You’re both on the dance floor and you’re having a great conversation about whether or not there is a life force besides ours. The two of you hit it off and you ask her for her home phone number. You’re dying to pick up the phone and give your new friend a call, but of course, you can’t call that very same night – it’s 2 am. That would seem way too eager.

Rules are made to be broken

There is an unwritten rule that you have to wait a certain amount of time before calling up a woman you’ve just met. Not waiting doesn’t necessarily make you seem overeager, it’s what you say and your demeanour on the phone that really matters. Therefore, if you call her on the second day, be calm and collected. Ask her how she’s been and chitchat for a short while, but don’t let the conversation drag on.

After the date

So the two of you went out and had a great time together. Within the next couple of days, you should call to tell her that you had a lot of fun. This call does not serve the specific purpose of asking her out on another date; it’s just to touch base and show her that you’re confident enough to call her again. By not securing another date with her, you’ll be catching her off guard once again and subtly easing yourself into her thoughts.

Leave a message

Now this part is crucial. If she doesn’t answer and her voice mail picks up, leave a message. In any case, her phone will give her a missed call list, so she will know you called in any case. If you don’t leave a message, she might think you were too nervous or lacked the confidence to leave proof that you called. Make sure to leave your name and number clearly. Don’t blabber on forever, don’t sound too serious and don’t repeat the information. If you leave a message, it becomes her obligation to call you back. If she doesn’t, and you really feel that the first date went well, you can try her again – but only after a few days.

No answer

This too is very important: If there is just no answer every time you call, don’t call her every hour. Calling obsessively will make you seem like a stalker. Finally, something that most of us have learned the hard way is that you shouldn’t take what other people say too literally. If she says she’ll call you on Monday night, for example, do not sit by the phone waiting for her call. Just call her up.

All About The Right Person In Dating Relationship

One cannot underestimate the power of love, more so during dating relationships. You cannot ignore something that will continue throwing each one of you in each others arms. The reason that so many relationships have not withstood the test of time is because most of the parties to the relationships fail to create grounding rules which would establish their entry into the world of full commitment. It is what makes a person move from the intimate world into the hands of sudden emptiness, when they are just a couple of weeks and months into the relationship.

Dating relationships are the surest ways towards forging relationships that will withstand the test of time. You cannot blame humans and their inherent hormones, testosterone and estrogen, which might just drive you into matrimony before you have even started feeling your partner. It is like thinking because the dating partner is breathing a lot, he loves you, until he gets the inhaler out of his pocket.

Whoever said that love is unmistakably blind was not wrong. It is what has made many of us to think that the person we are dating can only be the right one when we are within the furnace of intimacy and threshold of passion. Only after sometime has elapsed do we realize that the schemes of love are also dumb and deaf simply because we were not ready to hear any kind of communication that should have happened between us and our partners.

For one to determine whether the person you are engaging in dating relationships with is the right person, the best thing is just have a session together and begin your homework. It runs deeper than just determining whether you fantasize about the same music or movies. Cues of compatibility are all about the sharing of very common values, spiritual matters and goals of life. It runs deeper to doing things like talking to somebody and getting down to knowing them instead of exchanging a ring as sign of commitment.

Many individuals hate and fear speaking about anything about their dating relationships, where they think that any talk about the kind of romantic life they have and the intimate connections they have can only wane and deflate their love. Since it has a sense of truth, there is nothing like learning all you can about your partner, as you can waste your time thinking that the person will change your life for ever.

High expectations and the wrong things in mind have made many people cry their hearts out and feel like committing suicide when their partner decides that the time is nigh to call a spade a spade. You cannot blame them, they have weighed their souls and the dating relationship, and from the kind of things taking place, you determine that you cannot see any future in the relationship. So you cannot help wondering what has happened to the person you thought was the right person.

What Will be The Best Dating Sites Yow Will Discover Via The Internet?

There are many dating services online, and usually these websites are sorted into some categories. For example you can find dating sites for those that want a serious relationship. Or, you can find dating sites targeted specifically for the wealthy class, for example. One of the most famous dating sites is . The great advantage of registering on this site is that you have high chances to find yourself a date because there are millions of registered users. The site will find the perfect match for you. All you have to do is to fill in fields, such as whether you are looking for a man or a woman, or the minimum and maximum age he or she has. In order to find the singles that live in your area, you are also requested to add you ZIP code. If you want to improve your confidence on the possibility of finding a date online, you can read the true stories. These stories tell how people that have found each other with the help of this site finally got married.

But maybe you are not only looking for a date, you are actually looking for someone that could be your match and marry her/ him. If you are looking for a serious relationship, you need to check up . There are many different sites for different locations, like Canada or Australia or Chicago dating. The interesting thing is that they have also some special categories, like “black dating” or “Jewish dating” All you have to do is to register, offering basic information like your first name, email, country and of course zip code. Then, you need to select your gender and the gender of the person you want to find.

If you are looking for more than a dating single site you can check . As you probably have guessed already, this is the perfect place for those seeking for an affair or one night stand. But because everyone knows the particularity of this dating site, no one will be offended if you ask for an intimate date. You can find possible future partners and get in contact with them, near your location, because you have to provide your zip code. Also some members can post sexy videos of themselves. If you like this community, you can connect with the other members with the help of live chat. All you have to remember when you want to register on some of these sites is that you will probably need to pay a fee.